January 9, 2012

Through the Eyes of a Teenager: Relationships

Through the Eyes of a Teenager: Relationships

Having a boyfriend or girlfriend as a teenager is looked at as "important". Teenagers think that it's cool if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend. You're looked at as popular or dominate if you have another person of the opposite gender hanging out with you. Holding hands, taking pictures together, giving hugs and anything else. Public schools, private schools, and charter schools. Anywhere... It's talked about. It's debated about. It's thought about.

Sometimes it great and sometimes it's not. Is it wrong to be in a teenage relationship? Absolutely not. Is is necessary? Absolutely not. It just depends who you are and how you look at it. Is it your goal to have a girlfriend or boyfriend by the time you are 15 or maybe 16? To me there's should be no "goal" to be in a relationship. I'm not against dating at all, and some day I can guarantee you'll see me dating.

What about your parents? Would they approve of your decision to have a boyfriend or girlfriend? I do realize that some parents don't care if you date. They look at it as cute and how "grown up" you are. Other parents on the other hand... They definitely care. They might tell you a certain age you can start dating at. They might want to meet the person. Or maybe they just care about you and don't want you to make any mistakes. Most parents have more than likely had experience in difficult relationships - or ones that didn't work out. Ask them. Make sure you talk to your parents about it and know that you are ready for a relationship.

"The prettiest smiles hide the deepest secrets. The prettiest eyes have cried the most tears. And the kindest hearts have felt the most pain." ♥ -Unkown

I know quite a few girls who have had about 3 boyfriends in the last year. That's 3 different guys, all within 12 months. How do you take that? Sometimes it's sad and sometimes it's good. It all depends on the reason for breaking up. Some think, "If I don't hurry up and find someone who likes me, my friends are gonna think I'm lame." Girls out there and guys... Please don't think it's bad, or lame, or that you're a loser if you aren't dating someone. Even if all of your friends are.

I've said it once and I'm going to say it again... I'm not against dating. What. So. Ever. It's the way you get to know your best friend more, and maybe see a future together as your new husband or wife. God didn't say that finding the right person is easy. He wants to help you with it. He wants you and your significant other to be focused on Him and the plans He has for you. And just because it feels like you're the only "loner" or single one with your friends or at school, doesn't mean it's going to be like that forever. God has bigger plans for you and He wants you to trust Him every step of the way.

"For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." Luke 12:34


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